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1.和前任說拜拜！Ex-tract! Remove ex-everythings from your space。

　　Move forward by not actually being able to go backward: Hide your ex on chat, delete his phone number, defriend him on Facebook and unfollow his Twitter. And we're not just talking about ex-boyfriends—this includes ex-hookups, ex-booty calls and any other Bad News Dudes。向前看，真的不能再回頭了：在聊天工具上把前任拉黑，刪除他的手機號碼，在Facebook上與他解除好友，不再關注他的Twitter。我們這里說的前任不僅僅是前男友，還包括以前和你曖昧的人，以前跟你發生過關系的人，以及其他所有會給你帶來不良影響的家伙。

2.誰是你的菜

　　Rethink your type—especially if you keep dating the same kind of guy。反思你喜歡的男人類型——尤其是如果你一直跟同一類型的男人約會的話。

　　"Write down all the traits of the type of person you have liked, are attracted to or have dated, and whittle it down to 10 qualities," says Whitney Casey, author of The Man Plan. When picking guys in the new year, you can keep three of those 10 qualities—for the other seven, go for different types of traits. "Any time you're on a date and you notice that there are more than three common traits from your list, you don't give it another date. Stop right there."“寫下你喜歡過、被吸引過以及約會過的男人的所有特質，把它們精簡為十條品質，”The Man Plan的作者惠特尼·凱西說。在新的一年挑選男友的時候，你可以保留那十條品質中的三條，對于另外七條，選擇不同類型的特質。“如果約會的時候，注意到從你的清單上可以找到超過三條的共同特性時，那么不要再跟這個人約會了，就此打住吧。”

3.網上約會

　　Start a brand-new online dating profile...or finally sign up for one。建一個全新的網上約會檔案……或者干脆注冊一個

　　Rewrite your online dating profile from scratch; working with a blank page will get you thinking about what you really want. Then keep it updated, often—Casey, also Match.com's relationships expert, says to keep it active, like your Facebook profile. "You change your résumé for every job—so you should be changing your online profile picture to show you on a recent ski trip, or talk about the newest movie you've seen. You need to be putting things out there that people will respond to, not just 'Looking for someone with great eyes.'"重新寫你的網上約會資料，從頭開始會讓你思考你真正想要的。然后定時更新，經常更新。凱西也是Match.com的婚戀專家，她說要將資料經常更新，就像你的Facebook資料一樣。“每換一次工作你就改寫一下你的簡歷，因此你應當隨時改改你的網上資料照片，告訴別人你最近參加了一次滑雪旅行，或者談論你看過的最新上映的電影。你需要在網上放些東西讓他人對此做些反應，而不只是‘睜大眼睛找個人’。”

4.新環境

　　Put "our _____" in a whole new context。把“我們的_____”投入一個全新的環境中。

　　Give places and things you associate with past relationships a new meaning. Have a girls' night at the restaurant that reminds you of an ex, hold an impromptu dance party to "our song" or curl up with a date to that movie you thought you could never watch again。將讓你聯想到以前戀情的地點和事物都賦予新的含義。在讓你回憶起前任的餐廳，舉行一場女生聚會，舉辦一場即興舞會來唱“我們的歌”，或者把你約會過的某個人遺忘在那場你永遠不會再看的電影中。

5.一個人的幸福

　　Learn to be happy on your own。學會自己獲取幸福。

　　Before you start rolling your eyes and saying, "Cheesy!" just listen to what Michelle, 27, of San Diego, says: "You're much less likely to settle for someone who isn't amazing if you know how to have fun without a guy. The very day I told my friend I was not interested in relationships and 'I just want to have fun with my friends' was the day I met my boyfriend."在你開始轉動眼珠說“庸俗！”之前，聽一聽圣地亞哥27歲的米歇爾是如何說的吧：“如果你知道在單身的時候如何玩的開心，那么你就更不可能滿足于某個不怎么讓你感到驚奇的人了。就在我告訴朋友我對戀愛不怎么感興趣，只想跟他們一起玩的那天，我遇到了我的男朋友。”

6.眼光不好

　　Not good at seeing who's good for you? Then stop trying.。。眼光不好？那就停止嘗試吧……

　　...and let a friend do it for you. Casey says pick a close friend and put her in charge of finding guys—any other guy you meet automatically goes in the friend zone. "You'll only go on dates with someone she sets you up with," Casey says. Not only does this help you date better men, you'll also end up acting more genuinely around other guys you meet when the should-I-date-him pressure's off.……讓一位朋友幫你做這件事。凱西說，選擇一位密友，讓她負責給你找對象——你見的任何男人都自動過一遍這位朋友的法眼。“你只跟她為你安排的人約會，” 凱西說。這不僅會幫助你與更好的男人約會，并且因為甩掉了“我是否應該跟他約會”的壓力，你最終會在遇見其他男人時更自然地表現自己。

7.全新的自己

　　Feel shiny 'n' new。閃亮清新的全新自己。

　　Change something—anything! Wear glasses? Try contacts. Addicted to your flatiron? Go au naturel. Never worn orange? Hello, tangerine dress! Whatever you do—no matter how big or small—should make you feel renewed and different and boost your confidence。做一些改變，任何事都可以！還戴眼鏡？試試隱形眼鏡吧。總是依賴于你的熨斗？試試自然的狀態吧。從不穿橘色？橘色裙子也不錯！無論你做什么，不管是多大或者多小的事情，都應該讓你有全新、與眾不同的感覺，增加你的信心。

8.重新安排

　　Reroute your routine。重新安排你的日常工作。

　　Instead of sticking to all your usual haunts, go out of your way to try a new bar, new café or new club. Been there, done that? Bookmark sites like Metromix and Thrillist for local event listings, and get googling to find hyper-local blogs with more opportunities you'd never thought of to meet people。不要總是去那些你平日里常去的地方，走出來試試新的酒吧、咖啡館或者俱樂部吧。還在那里做之前那些事嗎？當然不是！標記像Metromix和Thrillist那樣的地址，可以獲知當地的事件，谷歌一下本地以外的一些博客，上面會有更多機會讓你結識新的朋友。

9.專注自己

　　Work on yourself。專注于自己。

　　Bring your "me" time back to the top of your priority list. Set personal goals (separate from your New Year's resolutions!) and stick to 'em. Whether you're focusing on toning your abs or taking new risks with your hairstyles, as 27-year-old New Yorker Sara says, "There is nothing more gratifying than running into him later and having him say, 'Wow, you look great.'"將“你自己”的時間放回到你的優先名單的最前面。設定自己的目標(與你的新年目標分開)，堅持去做。不論你是專心鍛煉腹肌還是冒險嘗試新發型，正如紐約27歲的薩拉所說，“沒有什么比后來偶然遇到他，聽他說‘哇，你看起來棒極了’ 更令人可喜的了。”

10.分手的原因

　　Remember: You broke up for a reason。記住：你們分手是有原因的。

　　If you find yourself ruminating on the past, focus on the crappy stuff. "Any time I started slipping into 'oh-I-miss-him-I'm-so-sad' mode, I'd remind myself of everything that annoyed me about him—sometimes I even wrote down a list," says Jessica, 25, from Atlanta。如果你發現自己反復思考過去，那么就把精力放在一些糟糕的事情上。“每當我開始陷入‘哦我想他我好難過’ 的情緒中，我就會提醒自己所有讓我討厭他的事情，有時我甚至把它寫成一個清單，”來自亞特蘭大25歲的杰西卡說。